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Forgiveness Is the Way to Reconciliation

There is so much bitterness, resentment, and hate in our cities, towns and neighborhood, community, in our home, and within the individual hearts. This bitterness and lack of forgiveness lead people to say and do all kinds of hateful things to others and to self. All too often our heart is a prisoner of hatred and we are unable to enjoy our refusal or inability to deal with life’s hurts.

A letter I'll never send to you (repost)

All my life,

From the time that I got to know you and eventually lead to falling in love with you, you had changed my life, my views & my world. Honestly, I want to thank you so much for these distance relationship experiences and learning’s you had imparted. You don’t know how much it means to me. I am so blessed to have you in my life for accepting my imperfection, tantrums, faults & my selfishness. I can't believe that we had surpassed some trials that come our way. I can’t believe that you see me as the girl you want to be with your life...I can’t believe that my love for you grows more each & everyday. Despite our differences, despite our busy schedule you find ways to make each and everyday worthwhile. Make me smile. Make me truly happy.

Now, it’s been hundred of hours, days being with this relationship. I felt so much like myself with no pretensions, no hesitations. I find myself happy, happy as I could ever be, Happiness is something that comes from within and not from the things I want to have, not from the material things I've been anticipating to have. You change my views and slowly I began to embrace the world you had, and had wanted to be in it. It didn’t take long, soon I found myself to be part of your world, and honestly, I lost track on the sense of time, maybe because it is so perfect that I wanted to stop the time and just be there. I know in your world, everything wouldn’t be permanent. But everything else guarantees happiness…

Why I’m telling you all of these? it’s because I want you to know why I’m so weak, I’m so fragile, that I could just lost myself any moment, because I can’t be the person I want to be if I can’t be with you… you become my source of strength, you made me more confident in all aspect I could ever think of, you supported me all the way, and most importantly you believe in me & inspire me. Now you know why I have to fear a lot of things, why I can’t do it if ill be all by myself, why I tend to be so selfish minsan because I don’t want to go back to the past relationship without acceptance that I had. I made a promise to myself, never to let you go, never to lose you, never to be my old self again. But things can’t be that way, because obviously but simply I just want to be fair enough, Something is holding me back. And you know what …

Luv, for all the things you've taught me, for all the things you made me realized, for all of it, maybe this is the best time for me to say thank you from deep inside of me. I truly appreciate all the things you've taught me, all the things that you've made me realized. I’m not quite sure if I have done the same for you. But I hope I made you happy too. You moved me, but it can’t always be all about me, because I want you to be happy too. I would want to say sorry, I’m so sorry, for thinking too much of my own benefit, of my own sake, of my own happiness, for not considering how you feel, for being unfair, for not telling you everything. For all of those petty quarrels, I’m so sorry…

I know things cant always be like that, and maybe now that I could tell you that I don’t want to hurdle you no more, I don’t want to stand in your way, I want you to do all the thing you want to do, I want you to find yourself, reach your dream, your heartfelt desire, more enjoyment & happiness. I don’t know if I've given you less or that you just have to do all those things. Honey, I would want to be in your world, but being there, requires you to just accept me, and it’s unfair. I don’t want to disappoint you anymore, I don’t want me to be your problem. Don’t want me to be a hurdle for you. You need to be happy too…

I guess, I’ve said enough, as always, I said my piece, I lay all my cards down, now it’s up for you to decide, the key is with you. I want you to be happy. It hurts me seeing you hurting inside because of my so selfish attitude simply because i love u. It is hard for me to do this, but it’s even harder to see you hurting because of me…

i love u . I really do...

~there comes a time when we have to stop loving someone not because that person has stopped loving us but because we have found out that they'd be happier if we let go..

This is the letter I'll never send to you.
What's left of my heart is in this letter,
and if only it were as easy as to give you this letter,
I would.

ME AFTER THE BREAK-UP (re-post)

This letter was written with the intention to let your fears subside and let your mind be pacified.

I must admit that right now I have no idea as to what you are feeling, simply because I choose not to think about it. My mind is full of other things; things that I think deserve my attention the most. I am sorry if you are as affected as you are, but I cannot do anything about it except write you this letter in the hope that you may understand.

I am alone. I have not found somebody else. Nor do I have any intentions of doing so. I am content living my life on my own, living by myself and thinking of no one but myself and nothing but things that concern myself. No, I am not being self-centered. I just don't have the capacity to think of other things anymore. My mind is as troubled as my heart and my thoughts as jumbled as my life. And I hope that answers your persistent question as to whether I am missing you or not.

Unlike you, I do not and will not send text messages asking how you are, where you are and what you are doing. It's not only that I am preoccupied with myself but also because I simply do not want to know. I do not want to think of you. I do not like thinking of you either. So, most of the time, it seems to me as if you don't exist or that there used to be someone like you, named as you are, in my life. However, you may find some consolation in knowing that I speak of you often and mention you in my many conversations with other people, most especially those who chose to stay even when I was at my worst.

You could have not foreseen that an incident that kept being repeated in the course of many months, the last months of our struggle to keep the relationship, would lead to something like this. Neither did I. Although many other things and people were instrumental in making this possible, your role and your actions were pivotal. It was the turning point. If at times during your musings you happen to think of whose fault it is that we separated, I hope that you remember the night when I came to you and you turned me away crying like the crazy girl that I am. And further, I hope that the words you uttered to me that fateful night will keep on ringing in your ear, serving as a constant reminder that it was your words causing you this pain.

I can stand on my own two feet. Now I really do believe I can. For after all, I had my two feet even before you came along. In fact, I didn't need an extra pair. I can find my own way. Now that I think about it, the extra pair of feet that came with the relationship only meant I had to go to more places and mingle with more and more people with still more feet, even to those I had no business with. I realize now that my life is complicated enough as it is and I do not need to concern myself with the intricacies of another person's life. My own is heavy enough for me to carry. I shouldn't be putting up annexes.

It may gladden your heart to know that I am doing well. I hope it does anyway. I am coping. My life is less stressful, merely because it is simpler. I need only to think about myself and things somehow turn out fine. I know I will get through this difficult segment of my life and it gives me such pride to think that after this is all over, I will have no one to thank for but myself. Or that if I have a list of people I would have to thank for, it is shorter, simply because it does not include you. If I think this way, can you blame me? You left me when I needed you most.

I do not think of the happy times we had or the good things we shared. The good things do not make up for the horrible, to the point of being pathetic, times I had to go through for you and because of you. Now I find comfort in knowing that it is all behind me now, I will not go through it again and more importantly, I do not have to take it from you. When I think of you, what comes to my mind is that, "Thank God it is over." I do not think of the good things, because it drags with it memories of the bad. I simply do not think at all anymore. And it suits me just fine.

I have by chance come upon this book by a certain Joshua Harris entitled, I Kissed Dating Goodbye and it is as if there was something other than pure chance that brought this book into my hands. It has changed my way of thinking and I believe, did a lot for my thought remodeling. I would like to share with you the things that have been pricking my brain. But I guess at some other time.

Margotte

Of YoU!!!

Days swift so fast, as I my feeling gone so big.
Regret but not, joy that’s bubbling in my stomach.
Laughter we had not to cherish but to smile.
Thoughts of you circling in my head that cause my eye movements.

How sweet been we are till to the last minute of our together.
We danced and we sing till to the last drop of our tears.
Mutual that we felt for our first sight.
Warm and unconsciousness we felt for our first hi.
Electricity that we felt for our first touch.
Levitate we are when we first lip

Hour is a year, a minute is a day and a second is an hour
For us, when we are inside each other. We ask to keep the night longer
than the day. we enjoy watching the sunset as we talk about being together
Through eternity.

Dreaming of someday somehow what we have with each other grows endlessly.
We often ask ourselves if fantasy is playing us.
Forget the ends but birth of ecstasy of every morning of us.
Clandestine meeting brought us, in the corner, in the dark room and even virtual.

Hindrances is disabled in my mind, my love surpasses them.
Closed eyes see only you.
Clogged nose smells only you.
Sour lips taste only you.
Numb fingers touch only you.
My whole body seems to be integrated to your body.
Of you my mind freeze.

Late Apology - By Casa_NOVA

It’s been a while I haven’t called you and I don’t think I’m missing you anymore. We used to be good lovers, committed and tied to each other. We have passed bumpy roads and still find the way out. We have happy moments, the laughter and the joy but why it suddenly flown away.

Search: Peace of Mind; Loving Heart

I don't know where to start and how. As I sit in my bed, I was groping for the right introduction and the gist to fit my theme, but my mind seems uncooperative at the moment. I wish my pen would do it for me...

Am I bothered? about what? Questions that keep boggling my mind - my mind that's devoid of peace since the time I was lost; yes... lost.... and I'm still wandering til now, seeking for my mind, looking for my heart, searching for my soul.

malu fernandez

Malu Fernandez...this writer has created a big buzz in bad taste over some sites already... anyone here already read her article?

http://selvo.wordpress.com/2007/08/08/mahaderang-matapobre-sa-ofws/
http://www.manilastandardtoday.com/?page=goodLife2_april16_2007

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What a low life this Malu Fernandez is. I dont know what she thinks of her looks but its pretty obvious to me. Thanks Karate Kid for sharing this. I think you should all read this.
Explorer

Ako? Brokenhearted??? Owwwsss!!!

Sabi ng mga ka-chat ko sa Usapang Pinoy, brokenhearted daw siguro ako kasi ipinahihiwating ng mga posts ko. Teka lang, bakit ba kasi pinapansin nila kung brokenhearted ba ako o hindi? Me magagawa ba sila? Pwede ba nila akong pasayahin? Pwede ba nilang buuin ang puso ko kung ito man ay broken? Sabi nga ng isa, "how can you mend a broken heart?" Ang sabi ko naman, "broken hearts cannot be mended, ano yan, damit ng pwedeng sulsihan pag napunit at nagkagula-gulanit?" Honga pala, bago tayo manulsi, itanong n'yo muna kung meron pang heart to be broken. Sige, itanong n'yo sa'ken. Me puso pa ba ako? Ang sagot: Meron naman. Katunayan, buhay pa ako dahil sa puso ko. kaso lang itanong n'yo uli kung anong klaseng puso, baka pambachoy na lang at pampapaitan ang puso ko (alak na lang kulang); o kaya naman ay tumigas at lumamig na na; urong-sulong sa pagtibok. Bakit nga ba? Itanong mo kaya sa mga kabaro ni Adan. (Excuse me po, makikiraan lang). P.S. Di naman lahat ng kabaro ni Adan.

And then there was you.

And Then There Was You

So cold and dark, so empty and alone,
Never knowing what real love was.

So fragile and closed, so hateful and cruel, never to open my heart to anyone, and then there was you.
So scared, so new, not knowing what was to come, I gave you what little I had left. Hoping that you would want me the way that I am. Timid and frightend, wanting to love again, and then there was you.

A little relief from the beating that my heart took, trying to remember what it was like. You showed me that it was real and true, you touch so gentle, you saw right through.
All the pain and distrust disappeared that day, the love that consumed me felt so perfect and so right. Still hesitant to let anyone see who I really was, and then there was you.

Believing in me, trusting me, loving me unconditionally, letting go of all the fear, anger, and regret. Knowing that it is ok just to be who I am.
Crying, laughing, talking, sharing emotions that I tried to hide for so long, All because there was you.

*I cried but i smile back to GOD. He has reason
why He let this things happen to me.

-LheNbay-

26 Secrets of Feng Shui

Introduction

Although Feng has been practiced in the Eastern hemisphere for thousands of years, it is relatively new to western civilization. Feng Shui may seem mysterious and foreign to our western culture, but it is actually a very sensible collection of ideas and actions. Once you understand its principles, you will be able to produce harmony, comfort and balance in almost any situation or environment.